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1. Don't reveal your true feelings 2. Always get your point across 3. Never raise your voice 4. Do everything you can to win an argument 5. Compromise whenever you can 6. Trust others only when they have earned it 7. Never call attention to yourself 8. Let others know your accomplishments 9. Put on a happy face 10. Always be genuine 11. Use anger to get your own way 12. Always give 110% of your energy What are some of your family's unspoken rules???? Do you still obey them??? Why/why not??? Eph 2:10 We are his workmanship (poiema, or poem, or work of art) created in Christ Jesus. God is an artist and you are His masterpiece! |
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 9/30/2008 3:37 pm |
 Rules rules rules!!  What an interesting topic. When people are driven by rules then there is always a high level of hypocrisy because they are acting from a low level of decision making......just following rules! I teach young children and see a HUGE difference when I teach children PRINCIPLES. When they understand all about respect, how it feels for them to be treated with/without respect they tend to be more aware of how their behaviour impacts upon others and are more likely to choose behaviours that will exhibit respect. Respect is something that sadly seems to be fading from our society. People are becoming more self focused and, while it it important to have a good positive self image, the trend has become more about me me me...and me only!! In many churches it is no different because people haven't been taught to think through their behaviours and the reasons behind them, but simply to 'act' according to what is dictated. Until people understand that integrity, kindness, respect, honesty, love etc are core values that are ESSENTIAL to effective and happy friendships/relationships with partners, family, friends, God and others, then they tend to only act the 'right way' when someone is watching. This of course leads to.... hypocrisy. 
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9/29/2008 8:28 pm |
I honestly don't think I have any unspoken rules... You know how much I love to talk... If I have a rule, I will tell you!  With Love  and Laughs  from the Lahli a.k.a.Lorilei 
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9/29/2008 6:44 am |
My mom carried these rules from her childhood into mine: Always say please and thank you. ALWAYS lend a hand without having to be asked!!! NEVER reach across the table for ANYTHING! My uncle learned this one the hard way when he was a boy. He ended up with a fork stuck in his hand!   I will never leave you.....
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 9/29/2008 5:29 am |
One for mine is, You can only give 100%because we only have 100% to give. And yes I use this rule every time I hear or read about someone giving more than a 100%.  Regards
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9/29/2008 4:29 am |
Yes, I see this in family all the time! I also see it in the church 'family', which is a crying shame as Jesus came to set people free and give them abundant life. GBY, Pat.
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9/29/2008 4:07 am |
Gazza Grew up with; Always get your point across (without arguments) Never raise you voice, Do you best to compromise in most diff/situations, Don't take anyone-anything for granted, Always be genuine to self-other's, Put on a smiling face, Be happy with what you have, Don't builtd castles in cloud's, Greet stranger's-elders with respect kindness, Don't try those crokodile tears on any body.. to get your way.. As I was growing up,my grandad-dad had a lot of friends come over from a far..I had to greet them by kissing their hand, and washing their feet,while my mom cooked for them.. Even this day my mom looks at me in a certain way..I have to know exactly what to say or zip it..Wish my kids are like that at times!  What happened to old fashioned maners? 
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9/29/2008 2:27 am |
One for mine is, You can only give 100%because we only have 100% to give. And yes I use this rule every time I hear or read about someone giving more than a 100%. Don't kick the donkey Numbers 22 v 22
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