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 9/3/2008 3:10 pm |
This is true! Even on this site, meeting new people for the first time can be dangerous. So much of it on the news. Pay attention and don't be so trusting! to the world the Lord has come, let heaven and earth and every heart receiveth Him.
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9/3/2008 3:30 pm |
there has been a lot of bizarre stuff
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 9/3/2008 3:36 pm |
I preach this over and over! Do your work on yourself; emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally, financiall . .. BEFORE dating or looking for a partner. The hurt and fall out is enormous when one doesn't. Susan aka Red God gives the very best to those who leave the choices to Him. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine...to Him be the glory. Eph 3:20 Find me at my screen name, blogspot and the usual ending. See ya there!
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9/3/2008 3:56 pm |
Amen to this, Dennis. I had a Pastor tell me once, any man who is remotely interested, wouldn't mind me asking his Pastor about him.... This weeds out many right off the bat. Ive been alone now for 14 years and my home is like Fort Knox and I like it like that. Any guy comes into my personal space, he will have to be checked out totally. Just cuz someone says something (ie: I am a Christian) doesn't make it true. I guess after what the ex put me through, you could not blame me....it's called Self Preservation. lol.   
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9/3/2008 4:26 pm |
Very sad to hear of this Dennis, thank you for warning us ladies! I agree with you on the statement about being healed before we JUMP into another relationship! I appreciate you looking out for everyone with good advise!
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9/3/2008 4:46 pm |
I preach this over and over! Do your work on yourself; emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally, financiall . .. BEFORE dating or looking for a partner. The hurt and fall out is enormous when one doesn't. I agree very much with You Susan. You have a very good head on your shoulders!
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9/3/2008 4:46 pm |
Thanks Dennis, I appreciate you too!! I would not go anywhere to meet anyone until I had known him quite some time. I am NOT in a RUSH...I BELEIVE this is where ALOT of people get in trouble. They are SO IN A HURRY, they SIMPLY FORGET what REAL LIFE exists out there. This is my first time to ever get on line and get acquainted on a computer BUT, I hope and pray these things will not happen to me. I KNOW I WILL take every percaution. 
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9/3/2008 4:47 pm |
Mom T: Amen to this, Dennis. I had a Pastor tell me once, any man who is remotely interested, wouldn't mind me asking his Pastor about him.... This weeds out many right off the bat. Ive been alone now for 14 years and my home is like Fort Knox and I like it like that. Any guy comes into my personal space, he will have to be checked out totally. Just cuz someone says something (ie: I am a Christian) doesn't make it true. I guess after what the ex put me through, you could not blame me....it's called Self Preservation. lol. Very good idea to ask if you could talk to his Pastor. If you do that though, just ask for the name of his church and the location. You can google and call for info on him.
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9/3/2008 4:49 pm |
chucklesgirl:Very sad to hear of this Dennis, thank you for warning us ladies! I agree with you on the statement about being healed before we JUMP into another relationship! I appreciate you looking out for everyone with good advise! You are right. It is very sad and the worse part is probably 75% and up of the things thought initially as love conections end up otherwise.
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9/3/2008 4:58 pm |
I have heard a couple of horror stories, too, Dennis. Of course, I'm not sure whether to believe it or not, but given the opportunity to meet this person or any others, I think I would be very careful! I will never leave you.....
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9/3/2008 6:13 pm |
There is nothing wrong with taking things very slowly, even seeing other people until both of you are on the same page that you wish to pursue things exclusively. Even with my relocating to NC it had to be that I was doing it not just for him but for me, because I wanted to be there. And even with the pressure of an upcoming deployment we are still taking it a step at a time, giving ourselves more face to face time so that we can know for sure where things are going. Talking on the phone and occasionally grabbing a weekend here and there is great but no substitute for time spent in one's presence. Take it slow, get to truly know the other person...be kind to yourself and to each other. He is no fool if he should choose to lose the things he cannot keep to gain what he can never lose.....Jim Elliott Deena 
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9/3/2008 6:14 pm |
who the heck is gonna let some guy buy a ticket to california and pay for a hotel room? Especially someone they don't know? I'm not up on the behind the scenes gossip and stuff here so I have no idea...but not the brightest move in my book. Take some responsibility for your life. It seems the guy was an arse..but jeezzz..don't put yourself in that situation. We're grownups here. Think and act like a grownup. If you truely want to deal with an internet, long distance relationship...be reasonable about it. If you're the one who is going to make the treck...pay your own way and set up your own hotel room. Don't make yourself in a situation of possible indebtedness. I don't care what kind of website you meet people from...take the same precautions that they teach kids about the internet.
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9/3/2008 6:24 pm |
Joy: I have heard a couple of horror stories, too, Dennis. Of course, I'm not sure whether to believe it or not, but given the opportunity to meet this person or any others, I think I would be very careful! I agree
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9/3/2008 6:26 pm |
Deena: There is nothing wrong with taking things very slowly, even seeing other people until both of you are on the same page that you wish to pursue things exclusively. Even with my relocating to NC it had to be that I was doing it not just for him but for me, because I wanted to be there. And even with the pressure of an upcoming deployment we are still taking it a step at a time, giving ourselves more face to face time so that we can know for sure where things are going. Talking on the phone and occasionally grabbing a weekend here and there is great but no substitute for time spent in one's presence. Take it slow, get to truly know the other person...be kind to yourself and to each other. Very good thoughts as usual 
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9/3/2008 6:28 pm |
Interp: who the heck is gonna let some guy buy a ticket to california and pay for a hotel room? Especially someone they don't know? I'm not up on the behind the scenes gossip and stuff here so I have no idea...but not the brightest move in my book. Take some responsibility for your life. It seems the guy was an arse..but jeezzz..don't put yourself in that situation. We're grownups here. Think and act like a grownup. If you truely want to deal with an internet, long distance relationship...be reasonable about it. If you're the one who is going to make the treck...pay your own way and set up your own hotel room. Don't make yourself in a situation of possible indebtedness. I don't care what kind of website you meet people from...take the same precautions that they teach kids about the internet. I dont think its bad that that person went. They felt safe feeling they had their own space. The other person misrepresented themselves. Each circumstance is a little different.
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9/3/2008 10:01 pm |
Well you've heard of the old expression how you should always keep change for a phone call/or a cab when you go out on a date with someone you haven't known that long.The same should apply in this situation.Pay for your own hotel and make sure you have plane/train fair back or don't go.
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9/3/2008 10:25 pm |
Thanks Dennis for the heads up. I've been here since about late '03, and have met one man face to face for coffee a couple of times and remained friends. It was in my town, and daytime. And I didn't tell him where I live. The town was actualy the nearest big town to me. And my family knew lol. That was yrs ago. I had alot of growing to do, and I had trust issues, so I didn't really want to meet anyone I think now looking back. And it is so scary! We better be scared, or alert anyway. Thanks for caring for your sis's and bro's and telling us. Blessings, Robin "There is no pit so deep, that God's love is not deeper still" Corrie Tenboom
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9/3/2008 11:10 pm |
Human nature and a sin sick world. Nothing suprizes me any more! Isaiah 42:8 " I am the Lord; that is my name! And My glory I will not give to another, nor My praise to graven images."
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9/4/2008 3:38 am |
I think, nomatter what you do, what precautions you take, there is always room for something to go awry.
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9/4/2008 4:35 am |
I agree with Susan. Wisdom is needed in all situations, especially when it is the matter of the heart. I know that it is hard for some to grasp, and even believe, but when it is the Lord who puts people together, then everything just seems to go together like it was always meant to. Waiting for the "right one" can be the most beautiful experience in the world, only to follow through with His will in courtship and then marriage would top that experience and take it to the level that the Lord intended in the first place. Blessings bro The body of Christ is like a patchwork quilt! All stitched together with God's love.
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9/4/2008 5:07 am |
I agree Lou
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9/4/2008 5:46 am |
amen dennis people can say anything on these dating sites and phone.so please ladies be very careful,take dennis advice and work on self be very cautious on this site and other ones.
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9/4/2008 6:56 am |
Thanks for stopping by Cathy
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9/4/2008 9:13 am |
You are so right, Dennis! Even if a person stated that he/she loves the Lord with all his/her heart and he/she is fully committed to Christ, is not a guarantee that they are. We need to give more time to know a person in a deeper level before making such lifelong commitment! Thank you for a great reminder.... BE BLESSED! glo Teach me your way, O LORD,and I will walk in your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear your name. I will praise you, O Lord my God, with all my heart; I will glorify Your name forever. (Psalm 86:11,12)
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9/4/2008 9:36 am |
My experience here has been exceptional...Maybe because i wasnt really persuing the relationship fervently?..Im persuing Jesus Christ!...Many emails...Many phone calls...Then meet in a very safe and well thought out place..So far,..So Great!....We are taking our time and talking, learning, and most of all...praying together...I would not give up....Theres a lot of great people here.......You know who you are!!...LOL Good luck and GOD Bless
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9/4/2008 5:04 pm |
Thank You Glo! I hope all is going well for you and Gary! He is a great guy.
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9/4/2008 5:04 pm |
Alan I am very happy for you. I am going to say that it is a rarity
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9/5/2008 11:55 am |
Pray for Mia everyone, things are not as they seem, she is in danger
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9/5/2008 3:52 pm |
I agree with you Dennis. I'm not sure what's going on here or on some of the other "Christian" social websites. I guess this is why I don't really persue Web-based "love" relationships. They are a waste of time. I see too many couples jump head-long into relationships. I've been there too ladies, thinking that after dating someone about 150 miles away, spending many weekends with this person and introducing him and having him meet and spend time with my son, that this was forever. Then I relocated to his town thinking we would get married only to find out he was seeing other women on the side, but when I broke it off with him, he started wanting me under foot every moment. Showing up at odd times of the night and following me to work. What a nightmare. I got out while I still could and relocated to Maryland at the time. He actually had the audacity to contact me after he got "engaged" to someone else and ask if we could have phone s*x (this really weirded me out and I changed my phone number). I no longer have any contact with him and have sense moved to Florida. I had the opportunity to meet two young ladies that Dennis is referring to and I can tell you, unless they get their act together, they are going to be victomized or abusive the rest of their lives. This is not Christian or God's way. I pray that if any other's are considering changing their lives for a man or woman, make sure you know the person a lot longer than a few months, and spend real time with the intended you are interested in. If there are red flags, drop them and move on. It's not worth the stress or physical or mental anxiety. If there are children involved and they point out red flags, take them to heart. It's not worth the time, energy, or finances you put in to a relationship that is abusive or passive agressive, and if you are the agressor, for your own sake, stop living in denial and get help. There is grace and forgiveness in God's love, but you must heal yourself before you can really find the happiness you are looking for. God bless all of you, Prayer causes Faith to work!
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9/5/2008 8:00 pm |
I've tried to warn the women here over and over again; but still some run off and get hooked up with someone ( they've only met here two months ago ), who makes their lives miserable. They need to slow down, pray and get to know the person, and at the first red flag.........STOPthe wagon and get off!!!!! Red flags don't wave for nothing. No, we speak of God's secret wisdom, a wisdom that has been hidden and that God destined for our glory before time began. 1 Cor. 2: 7
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9/6/2008 5:26 am |
Amen Steve. You have that right. Those flags go both ways, but I think as men we need to get the word out.
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