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I have a friend I met on site a few years ago and we are friends. She prays for Mercy and I all the time. My issue here is this. My friend is a nice looking gal. She doesnt feel received by men well. She thinks she may never get married. I have been trying for 2 years now to build her confidence and to encourage her. She is a believer. Really kool person. I have recently been talking to her about eye contact and just a nice little smile as she walks by people. How you project yourself is often how you will be received. If your head is down and your eyes are away, people are going to consider you unapproachable. This poor gal beats herself up like there is no tommorrow. Are there anythings that you have done that helped you be more confident? She went on a cruise once and a guy showed interest and they had a nice time. |
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8/7/2008 11:11 pm |
I dunno Dennis, I don't do anything to become more confident....I am in survival mode right now, perhaps I can go on a vacation to Hawaii soon, though. Or somewhere.  
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 8/7/2008 11:21 pm |
Is she concerned about the way she looks? Save a life, please adopt your next pet from a shelter, pound or rescue. "Iron Chef Bobby Flay, willing to sacrifice life and limb all in the name of flavour!". Alton Brown "I'm disturbed, I'm depressed, I'm inadequate, I've got it all!" George, "The Visa". "If your actions speak louder then words, you're not yelling loud enough". Stephen Colbert
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8/8/2008 3:56 am |
Learning to love yourself, not an easy thing to do....it's an act of will. Seeing yourself through God's eyes...there's the key. Drawing near to God....He shows you, believe me I know this! Penelope Captive of Hope 
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8/8/2008 12:22 pm |
I must admit that I feel more confident out in public if my hair and clothes are looking right! The right hair style and the right style clothes can make a big difference in the way a woman feels about herself! No..I'm not vain!   But if our gospel be hid, it is hid to them that are lost: 2Cor. 4:3 KJV
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8/8/2008 3:15 pm |
no you arent vain and those are some of the things I told her. She is pretty, she is spiritual, she has a easy on the eyes body. I dont get her lack of confidence. When I point all this out, she just says well you are may friend and well you are the only one that says that.
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8/8/2008 6:10 pm |
Some of my confidence comes from maximizing my talents. People may reject me because of how I look but they can never take away from the fact that I am a darn good photographer! Perhaps she could find some confidence in the gifts God has given her.
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8/8/2008 8:25 pm |
good points she doesnt feel she has any... she is a tough nut to crack
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8/9/2008 11:53 am |
Was she teased a lot in her past? Made fun of in certain areas? Is she self-conscious over certain areas? Does she compare herself to the Super Models and feel she comes up lacking? I dealt with low self-esteem issues in my past. I had to learn to see myself as Christ sees me and not as I see myself nor as the world sees me. Sometimes, it's a long struggle to get there! This is interesting! Maybe some of us ladies will eventually offer you some useful and helpful ideas!  But if our gospel be hid, it is hid to them that are lost: 2Cor. 4:3 KJV
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8/9/2008 12:36 pm |
she was teased she said, had no friends really
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8/11/2008 6:19 am |
she was teased she said, had no friends really My thinking is make the outside as attractive as possible while allowing the Lord to beautify the inside. Encouragement and compliments from others also help tremendously. When I was struggling with low self-esteem issues, I had to change my way of thinking about myself. I quit saying negative stuff about myself. I was a Perfectionist by nature and wanted everything about me to be PERFECT. I felt like a failure because I wasn't. The Lord delivered me from that bondage to Perfectionism! Sounds like you are a great friend to her! I'll be praying for y'all. But if our gospel be hid, it is hid to them that are lost: 2Cor. 4:3 KJV
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8/11/2008 6:46 pm |
I try to get her to stop that
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